Friday, October 13, 2006

I run a charity with thousands of caring, kind volunteers. Yet, among these thousands, one stood out more than anyone else. His name was Rob Brewer. But those at WiredSafety.org knew him best as "Tyree". Rob tragically dies today of a heart attack in his beloved state of Texas.

He was funny, kind, patient and wise. He was equally patient in calming down an hysterical cyberstalking victim, parent of a child who was cyberbullied or executive director (spoken as that executive director :-)).

Each e-mail he responded to made the victims and others who received them feel that he understood them (he did), he cared (he did) and that he could help (he could).

Thousands of people were helped by him personally. And through his leadership, his team and division (the most elite of all our volunteer teams at WiredSafety.org) helped many thousands more over the years. His depth gave us a reach we didn't have without him. He was a doer. He always believed that things could be done, should be done right and did them that way. He was a calm voice in the universe of abuse, pain and fear.

Whenever you needed something done, you could ask Rob. He somehow managed to do it with a smile (or the smiley cyber-equivalent). :-) He often talked about his wonderful wife, Dianne, and their family. He was surrounded by loving friends and family and wanted to share this with others less fortunate. Those of us at WiredSafety counted him as family too, our own special cyber-family of likeminded and relentless volunteers standing against abuses and criminals online. Standing for families, children and Internet users of all ages. He stood on that line. And through his good work, helped keep people safer. Because of him, children slept more safely and victims of abuse online could rest more securely. He has left his mark. The world was a better and safe place with him in it.

We at WiredSafety, and I personally, will miss him deeply. It is a heart-felt loss to us all.
We know how his real family must feel. His friends who could hear his laughter, not just read it, must be mourning as much as we, his cyberfamily, are. But we will miss him not less than they. He was, and will always be, part of us. He helped build us, enhance us and manage us. I do not know anyone who can take his place.

He made us stronger. He made us wiser, He made us better than we were and will be without him at the helm of this WiredPatrol team of volunteers.

I will add more when I can see through my tears. But I know that so many of you will want to share your stories and thoughts, as well as your prayers for his family.

It is with gratitude, love and sadness that I dedicate this blog to our dear friend, comrade and adopted brother...Rob.

God bless you, Rob. Rest in peace.
I suspect heaven will have gotten as good a leader and team member as we have lost.

Parry Aftab
Executive Director
WiredSafety.org

23 Comments:

Anonymous Allan Kush said...

When Parry called me and asked if I had heard that Tyree had passed away, I didn't want to beleive it. I sat there, dumb-founded and in shock. I didn't have any words to express my shock and sadness. I hoped against hope that the report was not true. The report was confirmed shortly there-after. My long time co-worker and friend was gone. The totality of it has yet to register. The more I think about it, the tougher it is to maintain composure. Crying is a good thing though.

It shows we care. Rob cared. He cared about his co-workers, his friends and most of all his family. When I was asked to become WiredSafety's Deputy Director, Rob did not hesitate to take over my position in Net Patrol. He did it better than I ever did. He cared about the countless, faceless names of victims who have come to us over the years. He poured himself out to people he had never met, and likely never would. He tried to make a difference and he did.

His Team, His Division and those he left behind in WiredSafety will always remember him. His patient instruction. His kind words. Always looking to make something better. He passed that on to everyone who was around him. It made them want to do better in return.

Rob, I shall miss you. God Bless.

Allan Kush (JollyGreen)
Deputy Executive Director
WiredSafety.org

12:26 AM  
Blogger Mo said...

We lost a major contributor to WiredSafety today. I knew he was under the weather, I didn't realize how far under the weather.
I too was stunned when told of Rob's passing.

Tyree and Assiac were the people (Rob) I went to when I had a question or concern. Always there, always helpful, never sarcastic or downgrading.

I so appreciated having someone to help me with the little stuff, and the bigger stuff too. He was really good!

I hope we can continue with the **got a question, ask a question** that Assiac set up.

There was never any oneupsmanship with Assiac. We were all on the side of Internet safety.

He was a ray of sunshine in WiredSafety that will be sorely missed.

Hope they have computers in heaven. I can just see the first angel, typing an email... easing a soul.

I am glad I got to work with him....

10:09 AM  
Blogger Mo said...

We lost a major contributor to WiredSafety today. I knew he was under the weather, I didn't realize how far under the weather.
I too was stunned when told of Rob's passing.

Tyree and Assiac were the people (Rob) I went to when I had a question or concern. Always there, always helpful, never sarcastic or downgrading.

I so appreciated having someone to help me with the little stuff, and the bigger stuff too. He was really good!

I hope we can continue with the **got a question, ask a question** that Assiac set up.

There was never any oneupsmanship with Assiac. We were all on the side of Internet safety.

He was a ray of sunshine in WiredSafety that will be sorely missed.

Hope they have computers in heaven. I can just see the first angel, typing an email... easing a soul.

I am glad I got to work with him....

10:09 AM  
Blogger Mo said...

We lost a major contributor to WiredSafety today. I knew he was under the weather, I didn't realize how far under the weather.
I too was stunned when told of Rob's passing.

Tyree and Assiac were the people (Rob) I went to when I had a question or concern. Always there, always helpful, never sarcastic or downgrading.

I so appreciated having someone to help me with the little stuff, and the bigger stuff too. He was really good!

I hope we can continue with the **got a question, ask a question** that Assiac set up.

There was never any oneupsmanship with Assiac. We were all on the side of Internet safety.

He was a ray of sunshine in WiredSafety that will be sorely missed.

Hope they have computers in heaven. I can just see the first angel, typing an email... easing a soul.

I am glad I got to work with him....

10:10 AM  
Blogger Mo said...

We lost a major contributor to WiredSafety today. I knew he was under the weather, I didn't realize how far under the weather.
I too was stunned when told of Rob's passing.

Tyree and Assiac were the people (Rob) I went to when I had a question or concern. Always there, always helpful, never sarcastic or downgrading.

I so appreciated having someone to help me with the little stuff, and the bigger stuff too. He was really good!

I hope we can continue with the **got a question, ask a question** that Assiac set up.

There was never any oneupsmanship with Assiac. We were all on the side of Internet safety.

He was a ray of sunshine in WiredSafety that will be sorely missed.

Hope they have computers in heaven. I can just see the first angel, typing an email... easing a soul.

I am glad I got to work with him....

Peabody

10:10 AM  
Blogger Mo said...

We lost a major contributor to WiredSafety today. I knew he was under the weather, I didn't realize how far under the weather.
I too was stunned when told of Rob's passing.

Tyree and Assiac were the people (Rob) I went to when I had a question or concern. Always there, always helpful, never sarcastic or downgrading.

I so appreciated having someone to help me with the little stuff, and the bigger stuff too. He was really good!

I hope we can continue with the **got a question, ask a question** that Assiac set up.

There was never any oneupsmanship with Assiac. We were all on the side of Internet safety.

He was a ray of sunshine in WiredSafety that will be sorely missed.

Hope they have computers in heaven. I can just see the first angel, typing an email... easing a soul.

I am glad I got to work with him....

Peabody

10:10 AM  
Blogger Cath said...

Life turns on a dime...
Frequently, we don't take that reality to heart until it's too late.

A couple of months ago, I had a chance to meet you and your wife, Rob, for coffee... a prior commitment got in the way.

Now we will have to have that "cup o' joe" on the "other side".

We are all truly blessed to have had you in our lives. You touched the life of each person that you came in contact with.. those of us you trained to help online victims and those victims you helped as their advocate.

Any time we had a challenge, you were there to guide us along; you were our fountain of strength when a case was overwhelming; you have been a bright shining light in our online friendships.

That light will shine on us continually now as you smile on us from your place in Glory.

For the family, my deepest condolences and prayers for the peace that passes all understanding to heal the hole in your hearts that Rob's passing has left behind.

Thank you for sharing him with us and our country.

Prayer of Protection
May the LIGHT of God surround you
the LOVE of God enfold you
the POWER of God protect you
the PRESENCE of God watch over you
NOW and ALWAYS
Amen

Much love and many blessings,
Cath [finewine99]

1:31 PM  
Blogger Agent008 Joe said...

My deepest condolences to Rob (Tyree's)family.

Rob (Tyree)I will Miss you
You have helped me many times.
All of Wiredsafety will miss you deeply.

Joe Agent008

2:41 PM  
Blogger Agent008 Joe said...

My Condolences to Rob (Tyree) Family.

Tyree I will miss you.
You have helped me many times.
All of Wiredsafety will miss you deeply.

2:44 PM  
Anonymous Becky said...

There are no words to express the deep loss that we all feel as an organization and as individuals. Rob's style of leadership was second to none.

He led with patience, kindness, humor, and wisdom. These attributes spilled over into our personal friendship as well.

There are no words...

Peace,
Tenny

4:10 PM  
Blogger Melanie( Tenderheart) said...

To Robs Family and Wiredsafety Family,

We have lost a dear friend and member of Wiredsafety. Rob(tyree) was the first one I met when I started with Wiredsafety. He was always helpful, but he will continue to be helpful because he is in our hearts and Rob also gave each of us a little bit of his talent. Rob was uplifting and very dedicated to Wiredsafety. His words were kind, and full of laughter. Tyree and I were currently working together on classes for Both of our divisions. we spoke in email often. I will cherish the last email I received was The end of Sept, in which there is a class "Handling Vics In-Channel Class Text". Rob and I were working on drafts for the class text as both divisions require this class to be taken. We were also kidding about how Jollygreen "needed to cancel one email address's for CSH to stop spam". Rob was very supportive in all he did for Wiredsafety and for members of Wiredsafety.org. Rob(Tyree) will be missed very much. The CSH Division taught me many things when I tried out for the division, However Robs email was very uplifting even tho I didn't make the division.

God Bless,
Melanie(Tenderheart)
IRC Division Director

God Bless,

8:13 PM  
Blogger Kay said...

My condolences to Rob's family. I know he will be missed by you, his friends, and his wiredsafety family.

In addition to helping all those who needed help because of someone stalking or harassing them or doing something else they needed help with, Rob also helped me personally anytime I had a question or needed help. I talked to him on the telephone a little over a month ago for help getting some computer things set up that nobody else seemed to be able to help me with. Like the other blogs say, he was always there for everyone at any time.

I was so excited to find out he was a fellow Texan. I had hoped we would run into each other some day although I knew that wasn't highly likely.

Again, to all Rob's family, I am deeply sorry for your loss.

Puterangel

8:30 PM  
Anonymous Randy said...

Rob, or Tyree as I knew him for the most part, was one of the greatest people I've worked with, offline or not. He cared about our work helping people very much.

He helped so much with IST and WiredPatrol. I remember late night brainstorming sessions that would clarify and expand my thoughts on the subjects we talked about.

Rob's humor! Where can I begin? :) Between Allan and Rob I don't think we had a moments peace in many of our meetings. Rob helped to keep things lively, and fun. He was always there to support us when we needed it.

Thanks Rob, and peace be with you.

Randy

12:48 AM  
Anonymous Randy said...

Rob, or Tyree as I knew him for the most part, was one of the greatest people I've worked with, offline or not. He cared about our work helping people very much.

He helped so much with IST and WiredPatrol. I remember late night brainstorming sessions that would clarify and expand my thoughts on the subjects we talked about.

Rob's humor! Where can I begin? :) Between Allan and Rob I don't think we had a moments peace in many of our meetings. Rob helped to keep things lively, and fun. He was always there to support us when we needed it.

Thanks Rob, and peace be with you.

Randy

12:49 AM  
Anonymous Albatross said...

I did not know Rob and its so overwhelming to see that he has touched so many lives in such noble ways. May his soul rest in peace.

6:58 AM  
Anonymous Kathy said...

I am married to Rob's brother, Guy. For nearly 30 years I've loved and respected Rob like one of my own brothers. Our thanks to each of you for sharing your memory of Rob here. It's gratifying to know so many people recognized his wonderful spirit. He no doubt felt the same way about you. I know your comments will be a comfort to his mother, brother, uncles and cousins. No matter where he lived or worked, Robby has always been exactly the way you knew him. ("Tyree" is actually his mother's nickname as well, and the way she signed all of her paintings.) He was a rock in hard times and a joy in good times. His kind heart, rapier wit, and open arms are sorely missed. When we get to Heaven, he'll likely be playing cards with his Dad, saying, "Hey, what took you guys so long...pass the meatballs." We love you Hon.

6:08 PM  
Blogger abbee said...

I would like to post my condolences to the family of Rob. When i had heard he had passed away, i was deeply shocked. I didn't know him very well, yet in the very short time I had known him, he was very understanding and helpful. Also extremely patient. A lot of people would say get off the internet, or go somewhere else, but not Rob. He gave me the courage and inspiration to stand up against abusers and criminals on the net. He also was very quick to pick out cyberbullies, which sometimes is very hard to do. He gave me a lot of guidance and encouragement.
My thoughts are with you at this sad time.

12:50 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Tyree was a dedicated instructor and I am pleased to have had some training and email exchanges with him. As a new CS&H trainee he was very helpful, patient, and kind and I am sad to hear of his passing.

sincerely,
Fgrep

2:36 PM  
Anonymous RcW said...

I did not personally meet Rob Brewer, but from what I have read in these blogs he was a very special and loved person. My prayers go out to his family, co-workers and friends and anyone who knew him. It takes a special person to care enough to do what he did. I admire that, and all those involved with WiredSafety Org..

Rhonda W. (Beach)
Volunteer Assistant
WiredSafety.org

God Bless you all & take care. Best to you all.

10:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I want to extend my deepest sympathy to Rob Brewer's family and friends and co-workers. Though I personally did not know Rob, he made an impact on many lives. He gave his time to WiredSafety to help others and that says alot. He showed he cared. There are no words to heal the loss of a loved one's heart, but our hearts and prayers go out to you all in this difficult time.

My sincere best to you and yours!

Beach/ Rhonda W.
Volunteer Assistant
wiredSafety.org

4:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

To the family, friends and co-workers of Rob Brewer. Though I did not personally know Rob, he helped many lives. He spent his time doing so, and it shows he cared. There are no words to say that can heal loved ones broken hearts, but I give my sincere sympathy for your loss. I know the pain of losing a loved one.

Sincerely,
Beach/ Rhonda W.
Volunteer Assistant
wiredsafety.org

4:24 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I wanted to take a few and Wish Rob's family a Happy
Thanksgiving. I
know Rob is looking from above smiling as he is sitting at
his
computer. We all have something to be Thankful for .......
and that is
for knowing Rob(tyree) and someone who we will never forget.

God Bless
Tenderheart

2:27 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

The is Rob's daughter, LouAnne.

We spent his first birthday without him.

I remember my sister-in-law and I conspireing last June about what to get him for his next Birthday. He was very hard to buy for. It seems like you would just find something, what you thought would be perfect, and he would walk into the house carrying that very thing.

The house almost feels like a cave these days. You no longer hear him laugh, make one of his ornery comments, or see him walking around with his ever present crossword puzzles.

That is going to take quite a bit of getting used to.

3:10 PM  

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